Bila nak kahwin?

بِسْمِ ال


Feeling: is frustrated


"Bila ko nyer turn nak kawin?" yes, as the years goes by..that question was asked more frequently. personally i dont have a problem with it as my answer would be either "i have not found the one yet", "insyaAllah bila da ada jodoh nanti". but what i have a problem with is...actually i dun consider myself having problem, in fact maybe the other has problem with EQ on that day, is when one can easily "match make" me with someone who is also unmarried...conveniently.
To be honest, at the back of the mind, i have already started nagging. Yes, to tell the person that the marriage that was bestowed to him was from Him. So instead of making me feel I am being mocked at (and accummulate more dosa at my end, May Allah forgive me :( ),wont it be better that it was replaced by saying thanks and praises Him.

A marriage, a sacred bond, which is a gift from Allah. A gift. Am i supposed to just settle down with someone whom i may not like or  dun meet the criteria (who is fit to lead me and my future children. someone whom my children could count on and be proud of) that i have in mind, just to keep the "matchmaking" at bay and/or to stop the advices. Not that I dont need advice or dont appreciate it, but I will ask when I feel the need to be adviced and I will approach the best (to my knowledge) and whom i am comfortable sharing about such issues. One thing I've learnt, its pointless giving advices to someone when he/she feels its not a problem to begin with. so, please stand behind my yellow line....7 arms length away for now!

I have people that I know who cried for me. Took pity of me.
The thoughts are sweet but its been placed in the wrong way. Save the tears. Ration it for those more important times, like in our sholat (*note to self*)

How come marriage seems to be a HOT QUESTION as we age?
I wonder as the years goes by will the next few HOT QUESTIONS be.."Da kerja kan umrah?" "Bile nak ke Haji?"
(May He remove us from the feeling that we are superior from others in a way or another)
ok, anyways I need to re-emphasise that i have no issue about Bila nk kahwin question, just dont play matchmake or provide me with advices when i myself didnt ask for it. Appreciate your gestures. 
The best gift for any unmarried person is SUPPLICATIONS.
A portion of the Al Fatehah is "To Him, we worship. To Him we seek His help". Help me to ask Him to bless me with a righteous spouse. 
SubhanAllah, May He reward for those who have tireless made supplications for me. Jazakkallahu khayran.